Loving for what reason

I realized today that I have been with a man for 13 years, 10 married....its been hard, but when I spoke with my girlfriend not long ago, who has been married for 35 years she told me that she falls in and out of love with her husband all the time. At first I couldn't understand what she was talking about. I thought once you fell in love and got married, that you just stayed in love. Well im starting to realize that she was right. I have fallen out of love with my husband, and we even separated for a few years. But over the past few months we have been spending time with each other and with our kids, and I,m starting to like him again. It is really interesting at times that when you drop the pain and finger pointing game, that you can begin to see what it was about the person you fell in love with in the first place. I know he sees it too. He never wanted to get divorced, and somewhere deep inside I guess I never really did either... so I think we have something we can work on, but it cant be for the kids, that is not fair to anyone, the kids do come first, but not in this situation. Do I love him.. yes, am I in love with him, Im not sure, but it will be fun trying to date and see once again.. if he can sweep me off my feet like he once could. Whatever the reason we fell apart, his fault, mine, money, trust whatever.... I Love Jesse and he loves me.... and we need to figure out if we love each other enough to stay married.... and if not... if we love each other enough to stay friends.